When a Woman Stops Abandoning Herself | Midlife Healing

The Defining Moment.

I was 45. I remember being on the floor. Lost. Broken. My life was falling apart. Everything that I had tried to hold together for years was finally falling from my grasp. I had tried everything to save this fall of the Titanic. I was drowning, and there was no one to save me.

I had made a stand. To not compromise. To not abandon myself anymore. And that stand was the defining moment. The end.

Simultaneously, a bird crashed into the glass door. It jolted me. I moved to pick it up, still warm. My heart was aching for it. But also for myself. My family. My children. I was mourning it all. It was a Rose-Crowned Fruit Dove. As I turned it over, its belly had all the colours of the rainbow, like a bowl of fruit in its feathers. It was so feminine. It was dead. This was me. It was an omen. My feminine self felt dead. I was trembling to my bones. I had lost my inner compass. 

A woman may look like she is coping on the outside, yet be inwardly desperate and lost, emotionally distraught, burnt out, overwhelmed, or uncertain about who she truly is. You can pick it. She may be numb. She may be paralysed. Invisible. Or she may be running so fast that you can't catch her. Yet still hold a smile. Sort of.

With so many distractions, children, work, relationships, family, so many demands, and her innate desire to serve others, including in the bedroom, she can stray so far from her feminine self, compromise and abandon herself so deeply, that she is left depleted not just in her body, but in her heart and soul.

This is when a return is imperative. A return to her nature. Her instinctive self. A return to her heart. A return to her inner femininity. A return to her SELF. She can no longer deny it. She can no longer turn from it. Life is calling her home.

She must answer the call.

She must. She must.

For a woman to survive, she needs to find her feminine soul, her spirit, her heart. To return to herself to find her authentic way of being.

The culture of capitalism, over-sexualisation, and the unhealthy desire for attention or shrinking to insignificance has unbalanced woman and thrown her off her centre. It's easy in our modern culture for a woman to lose her 'inner compass' and feel like she is flailing out to sea with no rudder.

That was me. I had no idea how I was going to land back on the shore. But I did. I found a way. Little by little. Bit by bit. By honouring my body, listening to her deep soul call, and starting the healing journey of returning myself, my body, my heart, back home.

At these times, in our greatest despair, in the darkest unknown, sometimes a deep soul prayer can be our greatest friend. 

And when a woman embarks on this journey, she returns with the gold from her travels. It can scare men. Or her partner to embark on such a journey. But if he can hold his own presence and let her find her way, she will return grounded in her heart so deeply that it can melt the ground or any distance between them.

Her feminine presence, her unique essence, her natural, magnetic quality that comes from being deeply connected to herself rather than from outward appearance or performance, shines through. When a woman feels grounded in her feminine presence, she no longer needs to force confidence, seek validation, or project a powerful image to be respected or noticed. Instead, she naturally becomes more radiant, sensual, authentic, and emotionally grounded.

This happens by placing yourself in a safe space of healing the inner feminine, a place where your heart is held, where you are invited into the tender waters of your own being, where you can reinhabit your body, and where you are guided safely back onto land. This is the Womantime space. This is where you are deeply held, in lightness, in fun, in depth and in groundedness. 

If any of this has resonated for you, if your heart, your body, your being is calling you home, answer the call. Don't wait another minute. Join us at Womantime Retreat, 13th - 16th August. We are waiting with open arms. 

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