Love in Surrender

You know that feeling when you've disconnected from your lover, your partner, and you want to reconnect in an authentic way again. In fact, you are yearning to. But you feel a little bit awkward, a bit strange, a little shy to re-engage? 

And it's like you've lost all those wonderful skills at connecting you used to have but they all seem to have fallen away?

You KNOW that the other person probably WANTS the same thing - connection. But you've lost a little confidence?

Well, that's how I'm feeling right now. Because I KNOW that I haven't been sending out my usual emails to you with some juicy stuff, and I'm feeling a little shy to re-engage! So here I am!

One of the things I encourage couples to do, is stay connected. 

I encourage them to have 'Check-ins'. To create a safe space to share what's going on for them. To be authentic. To be real. To let down the shield and just show up. In spite of the awkwardness, because not acting on this deep yearning to connect, keeps us lonely. Keeps us separate.

So, here's my check-in....

The truth is, I've been very tender. Very very tender. With the loss of 3 dear loved ones, including my mother and dear Gene, who I began the Making Love Retreat with some 15 years ago.

I have had days where I didn't know I could pull through. And yet, little by little, bit by bit, gently doing small tasks every day, I was able to hold Womantime Retreat in August and The Making Love Retreat in October.

Two beautiful, heart-opening, transformational retreats with the support of beautiful assistants at the MLR, Jodie and Evan, (pictured) and Melissa at Womantime. It was easier than I thought.

I thought that because I am supposed to be the 'together one', the leader, the facilitator, that I didn't have it in me. But you know what? 

Something beyond me showed up. Beyond the personality 'me'.

I felt held by something greater. By life, perhaps by these loved ones, definitely by Gene at the last MLR.

And now that I reflect, I realise that it was LOVE that SHOWED UP.

When you surrender and let go, put down any attempts to be 'something', things become much simpler. You surrender into naturalness, into love.

And that is what the 'Check-in' is. It's a step-by-step way for couples to emotionally connect, especially if there has been distance. And it's a wonderful balm for your relationship, letting go of any goals around lovemaking. One man said it was the best foreplay he's ever experienced! 

I did a recording quite a while ago to explain 'The check-in' for couples, and it is still relevlant. It's called Emotional Intimacy vs Sexual Intimacy. You can view it here.

News:- 

Making Love Retreat

I now have a male assistant, Evan, along with the lovely ever-wonderful Jodie. It was great to have a male presence holding space for me and I'm so grateful to him and his wife. Evan attended the retreat with his wife last year and as a man who has led men through his work and who was deeply touched by the retreat and its effect on their relationship, he said he wanted to 'pay it forward' and support the work any way he could. I know the men appreciated his presence.

 We have two locations for the Making Love Retreat next year, Noosa in May (registration open now) and Byron Bay in October (Registration opening soon) Go here for more information.