Sex and Love - Shifting the Power Struggle in your Relationship

At some point, many couples stop talking about sex — not because it doesn’t matter, but because it feels too hard.

Too confusing.
Too vulnerable.
Too loaded with disappointment.

So instead, it becomes something quietly avoided. Not argued about — just left untouched.

Or, it IS a constant source of arguments that spiral into hurt and escalated emotion that just seems unresolvable.

I know this place intimately.

Here I speak about my experience of The Making Love Retreat, which I first attended in 2008, having read The Heart of Tantric Sex by Diana Richardson. I'd have to say, it changed my life. Reading the book is one thing. Actually living it and putting the teachings into practice are another. This is where the deep transformation happens.

By the end of my 30s, I felt deeply disconnected from my body and from lovemaking. As my body changed, I assumed something was wrong with me. I felt despondent, uncertain, and quietly resigned to the idea that intimacy would never feel easy or alive again.

What I later discovered changed everything: there was nothing wrong with my body. What was missing was an understanding of how female and male sexuality actually work — and how intimacy naturally evolves and changes over time.

When I encountered Diana Richardson’s approach to conscious lovemaking, it opened a doorway I didn’t know existed. I began to experience my body differently — with more sensitivity, subtlety, and presence. And with that came a deeper, more loving connection with my partner.

At the heart of this work is presence.

When couples slow down and become more present with themselves and each other, the pressure to perform dissolves. Lovemaking stops being something to get right and becomes something to listen to. This is where sex and love come back together — gently, honestly, and without force.

This is why I now share The Making Love Retreat, created by world-renowned conscious lovemaking teacher Diana Richardson. I see again and again how couples arrive carrying years of unspoken pain — and how, through this work, that weight begins to soften and fall away.

For me, this work was life-changing. And for many couples, it continues to be.

Here are two shares from a husband and wife about the last retreat:-

She says:- I feel an enormous shift in our power struggle of pain, guilt, shame, expectations and cycle of habitual reactions and triggers. I feel seen, listened to, and understood from the heart, more than I ever have in 34 years since we started our journey together. I feel barriers falling away. I feel light in my heart for myself and my husband, a sense of peace and space.

There are not enough adjectives to describe Janet and her assistants in this workshop, which was brimming with authenticity, sincerity, love, empathy, kindness, understanding, and knowledge. The content was so valuable in so many facets of life; having a male presence was invaluable!'

He says:- 'The retreat made me feel stronger in myself and definitely stronger and more capable of moving forward in our relationship. I can admit responsibility for past actions and feel excited for our future together. 

I was a bit anxious before the retreat and felt that I would be way outside my comfort zone. But even on the first day, I committed to it and felt myself sharing more than I have ever before. It was lovely to be comforted by hearing other men and women share their stories and realise there are common issues - and to see other men and women grow to love again over the course of the week.

Janet has such a lovely presence - you can feel the love in her emanating to the room. Her two assistants, Jodie and Evan, were so calming and sincere. The whole course is presented with 100% commitment such that it is easy to learn, understand, and appreciate the content.'

We have two retreat locations in 2026 - Noosa and Byron Bay. I am offering 2 complementary sessions with me to the value of $660 if you book before the 31st December 2025. Read more here.