The Void in Perimenopause

There's something I call 'The Void' in Peri and Menopause. It's that stage 'in between'. 

There is now far more conversation about the hormones and biology of perimenopause and menopause than there was ten years ago. 

And, we must also give equal attention to the psychological and emotional transition that is taking place.

The Void is a stage where things have or are starting to fall away. Children are leaving school or leaving home. Parents have passed or require more care. Jobs and career is shifting. Relationships are in question. Health issues surface.

It can feel like you are left out to sea with no rudder, no anchor. All that tied you, bound you, kept you focused and committed now leaves an empty space. 

The void is where many women feel lost, flat, or uncertain. Joyless. Like a cloud is over them.

The Void Is Not a Mistake. 

It's a recalibration. It's a pause. It's a time for allowing. Of being. Of feeling.

Grief can come in on the rising tide, leaving those things that have been tucked away in the psyche, open and raw, on the shore of our longing. 

Those babies that were never had, ideas that never flourished. The career or relationship that didn't quite go the way it was hoped.

I remember being very clear I didn't want any more children, but the grief I felt at the knowledge that it was not possible to be pregnant ever again floored me. Undid me. I was shocked. It was overwhelming and palpable. Looking back, I wonder if it is like a collective grief of woman. Unexpected. Lonely. No-one else was speaking of it.

So ladies, if you're feeling any of this, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. 

This is the time to become more self‑focused — not in a selfish way, but in a necessary way. Our bodies need care. 

This phase invites a cleansing — an emotional purification — so that we can come to a new place within ourselves. Of renewal. Of regeneration.

It's also a time of sifting, sometimes dismantling old ways of being. Creativity and soul nourishment become important. Think of those creative endeavours you used to love when you were younger. All these can help you 'return home.' Home to your heart. Home to your body. Home to you.

Re-engagement with the relationship with your own self ultimately helps the relationships around you.

This stage doesn't just need information.

IT NEEDS TRANSFORMATION.

So that you can confidently step forward into the next phase of your life.

Womantime Retreat was designed for exactly this stage. All stages for women, and specifically this one. Come join us for this transformational experience. 

WOMANTIME RETREAT - 13th-16th August. Read more here. 

What one woman said about Womantime Retreat:-

"It has been the most powerful retreat I have been to. I have voiced thoughts and feelings I have been too afraid to face— or verbalise. There is a sense of liberation now. The support and encouragement from the facilitators are what has allowed me the space to open enough for some true growth and understanding. Each component was filled with information, insight, experiences, and guidance. I felt so seen, so held, and supported that I know this will stay with me as I return home.  

I cannot express my appreciation enough in words; it is a feeling of being a family filled with such powerful and inspiring women. Thank you!" 

Kelly, 51